...with yourself <3
I've found through convo with some of my single friends that majority despise the idea of "going out" alone! It was a stunning discovery which many expressed they felt lonely, unaccomplished, awkward, and embarrassed when they tried to go to an upscale restaurant alone! Trust me, I know the feeling but I discovered while going on day dates alone a lot about myself SERIOUSLY! I mean foods that I like, chic restaurants all the way to hole in the wall joints. I realized my emotional triggers to umm girl you better watch yourself to my life goals to my personal mission statement. I was accustomed to going with the groove of evening plans others made, that I never had time to focus on myself - to learn who I was.
God politely removed me from the crowd to focus on Him & learn my true God given identity. When I started going out alone (or with my little one) I learned God intimately, establishing a relationship with Him. I'll never forget the day God checked me so hard. I'm sure many of you can relate! I was going through a rough season in my single walk and felt worthless. My hair looked a hot dry mess (which I was natural), I dressed horribly wearing clothing that made me look a decade older than my age, and did not care about how I looked when I stepped out the house. Early one Saturday morning the Lord reminded me of how glitz'd and glamorous I would be when I had a boyfriend, how my hair stayed done, how I'd maintain weekly mani's & pedi's, and dressed to impress! He (God) wanted me to get beautified for Him. So I booked a hair appointment immediately,rushed to get a mani & pedi, & did some long over due retail therapy. Oh & went on my 1st official date.
Since then I've overcome my fears of being out alone and actually enjoy my date nights with me, myself, & God (LBVS). I've met some really cool people, learned about some dope spots, beat the date night weekend crowds (I typically go out during the week or early in the day). Here are a few tips of advice from my reflections of Date Nights! Of course use them at your discretion :-) Enjoy & learn to embrace your singlehood to live a happy & single life.
1. Go out to eat & sit in a booth for two or sit at the bar ONLY if you can handle the setting without indulging). It's the perfect opportunity to network and meet new friends. Take a journal with you to reflect on how you felt, what you ate, & recap the entire evening.
2. Dress up & look your very best. You never know who may see. Dress up not to be seen but to feel amazing & fabulous. Point is dress how you'd like to be addressed Ms or Mr CEO!
3. Prepare a budget for your night out. Examples for a night out are dinner + movie (I highly recommend Studio Movie Grill theaters or IPIC theaters), Spa Day & Sightsee Evening, Rooftop Networking Mixer, Breakfast & a Theatrical or Play Production, etc. (It's okay to splurge a little more because you are the most important person on this night. Remember look the part! Maybe throw in a night out stay in a Luxury hotel. Hey YOLO so why not)
4. For parents only do ONE check-in, but do not feel bad the kid(s) aren't with you. Focus in pampering and relaxing.
5. Unplug from time-munchers (we're all super guilty) i.e. ALL social media. Instead capture the moment and take photos of course. SHARE THEM LATER.
6. Don't be afraid to meet new friends. Start convo & show genuine interest rather it be a couple, a solo individual, waitress, etc. You never know who may have the key to your destiny, access to the opportunity you're seeking, or the confirmation you've been longing for.
7. Take this time to learn you! Capture the moment! Of course, it may be awkward at first but observe & promise to yourself to enjoy this time with you & God.
So now its time for you to log off and get ready for the PERFECT DATE. If you're reading this please share your experience with us after your date!! Remember God loves you unconditionally & wants you to experience Him like never before. This date may be the beginning of experiences like never before!!
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XOXO,
Jenn
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