Love Theories: Different Phases of Love

This blog post is dedicated to a word used often LOVE, but the question resonates “is the action in alignment with the meaning”? Love is used is so many ways but how is it demonstrated from the giver and embraced by the receiver.

Author C Clark Jefferson, shares her experience and observation of Love in her newly released book Love Theories. Love Theories is a collection of eight short stories illustrating how people equate the word love. “Often the word love is misunderstood. People equate so many things with love like money, sex, power, abuse, and revenge” she claims. Through much observation of interaction between a parent and child, friends, husband and wife, & boyfriend and girlfriend she inquisitively questioned if what she saw was actually love triggered her to write Love Theories. As she sat in public places observing strangers in their natural environment, she was intrigued that couples sat at restaurant tables lifeless with minimal conversation, blank facial expressions, where it appeared to be no type of bonding or better yet evidence or substance of love.

C Clark Jefferson reflects on a time when she was in a relationship that had the appearance of love, but as time passed, she desired for the beginning to recreate itself over again. The reality was the relationship was not going back to what it once was. Regardless of the emotional and mental bruises, burns, scars and wounds endured in that relationship, she was inspired to move on to something better. Now let’s pause! How many times have we (ladies) stayed in relationships past the expiration date? How many times have you tried to recreate the “moment you fell in love”? Wait was that love or maybe the smoke screen called lust!

Her perspective on love is if you truly love someone just be sure your actions aligns with what you say. She also believes that true love is accepting a person in spite of their flaws and instead of trying to change them you just help the other person be a better individual. The heart is a very fragile thing, it can easily be broken by someone you know, like, and trust. Before using the “L” word ask yourself is it really love? A lot of times we love conditionally and not unconditionally. Guys I highly encourage you to pick up the book Love Theories by author C Clark Jefferson.

It is a book that readers in different areas of life can read – recent college grads, couples, singles as well as older generations.

Love Theories is currently available for sale here and http://www.createspace.com

You may read an excerpt of Love Theories here,

XOXO,

Jenn

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Single Love Chronicles : The Season my heart SHATTERED to pieces..

Single Love Chronicles : The Season my heart SHATTERED to pieces..: Yea many chicks say this, but for me it was not a cliche! I remember this season of life vividly because it was life-altering! December o...

The Season my heart SHATTERED to pieces..

Yea many chicks say this, but for me it was not a cliche! I remember this season of life vividly because it was life-altering!

December of 2009 I was finalizing my internship preparing to enter my career as an elementary school teacher. I began to feel sick, nauseated, and full of confusion, later discovering I was expecting a baby. I was supposed to be entering my career instead I was going to be entering motherhood (a lifelong title I was not mentally prepared for) fresh out of college. My child's father was surprised, but the journey ahead was one I was not prepared for. So there I was trying to process that me, Jennifer, honor's graduate, an AKA, a free spirited girl was about to be a little persons mom. Okay! I prepared to have a healthy and happy pregnancy which I did until my third trimester. BOOM, my child's father would not be around to assist me during birth. It was a tough pill to swallow that I would be pushing out this innocent life ALONE. Then BOOM, shattering news that another baby was on the way (NOT BY ME). Wait what?! Yeap at that moment I could no longer bear the burden of hurt, depression, sorrow, worry, and anxiety that I was a young, black, single mother.

Days before I gave birth to my son.


I could not process what was happening during this season. It felt like my life was caving in. The guy I loved was unfaithful and planted kids elsewhere. I am supposed to be working as a teacher yet I'm nursing a newborn. I'm supposed to be enjoying my life instead I'm making WIC appointments. It was in that season, I decided not to be statistic! You know the "angry baby momma syndrome"! I was not going to rely on the system of this world (aka the government) or child support to provide for my kid. I had to become resolved within myself to face that I was broken mentally and emotionally. I had to cope with the reality of being a young single mother. I had to face the fact that feelings existed, but had to be purged out of my soul and heart.

You see in that season it appeared that all hell broke loose, but the bad situation(s) happened to move me closer into God's hand because I would have stayed in the mess although I was miserable. I realized that it was GOD'S plan for everything to occur the way it did! The heartache drew me closer to Him, prayer, and a consecrated lifestyle transformation. I did not want to carry on through life with bitterness and vindictive spite instead I chose to forgive and love as Christ loved me. I had to ask God to restore my ability to trust once again and pray that my desire to love be restored. Because of Him, I was able to push past the pain to provide the BEST life for my child. I had to come to God carrying my shattered heart for Him to mend it. I had to call out the truth of my heart and allow Jesus to mend my delicate heart back together like a mosaic masterpiece.

During that season, I learned Christ as my healer, restorer, deliverer, comforter, provider, and redeemer. Ladies, I share this with you to trust in God during seasons like the one I went through. It was not easy, but it was bearable. It was Christ who gave me the strength to endure it with a smile (literally)! Ladies, I was tired of holding on to unforgiveness and pain. Are you? Then Christ can take it away. I was embarrassed and broken (Christ had more things to reveal to me if I did not walk away from the relationship), but wanted out of it in my heart and soul. How broken and embarrassed will you have to be for Him to get your attention?

Ladies (and Gents) I want you to know that Christ loves you unconditionally and will do what ever it takes to draw you to Him for his purpose and glory. Whatever season you may be in, it may be rough, embarrassing, and hurts the very core of your heart, but gravitate towards Him. He will restore you in no time.

Enjoying life with my son.

Reflect on these scriptures

Psalms 34:18 NLT The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
Psalms 55:22 NLT Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you.
Romans 8:28 NLT And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

XOXO,

Jenn

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'Tis the Season

While its cuffin' season don't you dare let discouragement set in...Here are  some nuggets for you to consider this Fall to explore! It's time for you to LIVE YOUR LIFE out LOUD ✨Your single must do's: 

1. Create new experiences to hone in on your passion(s), of course ensure it aligns with your purpose, and develop a profit plan for it >>>> Your 1st...or 2nd Business (I blogged about Business! Check it out here)

2. Live Alone! Yeah it's hard but it teaches you how to live happily in solitude, quiet time to think & pray, & a great deal of confidence in your ability to survive

3. Take a cultural adventure and travel abroad either alone or make it a girls affair!!! Either way you learn a lot about yourself in handling foreign currency, culture, and chaos (on the to do list ✔️) 

4. Hang out with your married friends close in age! See how they speak to one another. Nonverbal cues. Make mental notes >> Marriage isn't perfect nor is it the cure to happiness << Be happy for them! One day that may be you

5. BE SINGLE...stop jumping from date to date desperately hoping that he or she is "THE ONE"(maybe JUST maybe this is why you're still single). Sit fully and be single & see what you find about yourself! 

(Check out my last post about "The Perfect Date")

Hope these nuggets help you this week! Be Single & Be Ecstatic about Life (especially during the holiday season)!  

XOXO,

Jenn

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Dear Procrastination...We Cannot Dwell Together...

...Death be to Procrastination! Yes we have been together for awhile, but it's time to get down to the nitty gritty of handling Kingdom Business in this world!

We all have an assignment that the Lord has placed in us, but it takes a "death" of comfort zones, procrastination, and fear to stretch the talent and gifts out. It's so easy to stay complacent and make excuses to not get things done, but I assure you especially if you're single to seize the moment and GET IT DONE. When you are single it's the best time to get your feet wet in business and explore the success journey the Lord has innately placed in you. You don't have the responsibility of someone else or the "settle down" syndrome while you're single so it is prime time to make mistakes and get birth that vision the Lord showed you a few years ago, write those books you thought of, create that boutique you've desired since childhood, finally go pursue the degree you've been putting off :) So here are a few tips to help you get a jumpstart on handling Kingdom Business & ending procrastination...

1. Pray about your business aspirations, goals, passion, and desires (all things in alignment with your God-given purpose is already done. Pray. Pursue. Produce as my Pastor once said)

2. Don't doubt yourself it will keep you stagnant from actionable steps. Don't doubt the Lord. Meditate on scriptures and books that keep you motivated and encouraged.

3. WRITE..WRITE..WRITE..it's time for you to write. Find a good quality notebook and a good writing pen, keep them with you every where you go (work, church, restaurants, hair salon, etc.) You get the point! Keep ideas documented because you may forget a super awesome idea!

4. BECOME AN AVID READER!! Point blank PERIOD. Read books to help you develop personally and professionally.

5. Invest in a coach or mentor! Someone to keep you out of "comfort and procrastination zones". It's important to seek a mentor who is where you aspire to be in life and in business. (Do serious research because everyone may not be the best coach for you!)

Remember Jesus has allowed us on Earth for a purpose and reason. He wants your talents and gifts to be showcased in all the Earth to give Him the glory! He has placed something unique inside each of us to create wealth. "But you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth, that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day (Deuteronomy 8:18).

XOXO,

Jenn

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Time for the Perfect Date...

...with yourself <3 I've found through convo with some of my single friends that majority despise the idea of "going out" alone! It was a stunning discovery which many expressed they felt lonely, unaccomplished, awkward, and embarrassed when they tried to go to an upscale restaurant alone! Trust me, I know the feeling but I discovered while going on day dates alone a lot about myself SERIOUSLY! I mean foods that I like, chic restaurants all the way to hole in the wall joints. I realized my emotional triggers to umm girl you better watch yourself to my life goals to my personal mission statement. I was accustomed to going with the groove of evening plans others made, that I never had time to focus on myself - to learn who I was. God politely removed me from the crowd to focus on Him & learn my true God given identity. When I started going out alone (or with my little one) I learned God intimately, establishing a relationship with Him. I'll never forget the day God checked me so hard. I'm sure many of you can relate! I was going through a rough season in my single walk and felt worthless. My hair looked a hot dry mess (which I was natural), I dressed horribly wearing clothing that made me look a decade older than my age, and did not care about how I looked when I stepped out the house. Early one Saturday morning the Lord reminded me of how glitz'd and glamorous I would be when I had a boyfriend, how my hair stayed done, how I'd maintain weekly mani's & pedi's, and dressed to impress! He (God) wanted me to get beautified for Him. So I booked a hair appointment immediately,rushed to get a mani & pedi, & did some long over due retail therapy. Oh & went on my 1st official date. Since then I've overcome my fears of being out alone and actually enjoy my date nights with me, myself, & God (LBVS). I've met some really cool people, learned about some dope spots, beat the date night weekend crowds (I typically go out during the week or early in the day). Here are a few tips of advice from my reflections of Date Nights! Of course use them at your discretion :-) Enjoy & learn to embrace your singlehood to live a happy & single life. 1. Go out to eat & sit in a booth for two or sit at the bar ONLY if you can handle the setting without indulging). It's the perfect opportunity to network and meet new friends. Take a journal with you to reflect on how you felt, what you ate, & recap the entire evening. 2. Dress up & look your very best. You never know who may see. Dress up not to be seen but to feel amazing & fabulous. Point is dress how you'd like to be addressed Ms or Mr CEO! 3. Prepare a budget for your night out. Examples for a night out are dinner + movie (I highly recommend Studio Movie Grill theaters or IPIC theaters), Spa Day & Sightsee Evening, Rooftop Networking Mixer, Breakfast & a Theatrical or Play Production, etc. (It's okay to splurge a little more because you are the most important person on this night. Remember look the part! Maybe throw in a night out stay in a Luxury hotel. Hey YOLO so why not) 4. For parents only do ONE check-in, but do not feel bad the kid(s) aren't with you. Focus in pampering and relaxing. 5. Unplug from time-munchers (we're all super guilty) i.e. ALL social media. Instead capture the moment and take photos of course. SHARE THEM LATER. 6. Don't be afraid to meet new friends. Start convo & show genuine interest rather it be a couple, a solo individual, waitress, etc. You never know who may have the key to your destiny, access to the opportunity you're seeking, or the confirmation you've been longing for. 7. Take this time to learn you! Capture the moment! Of course, it may be awkward at first but observe & promise to yourself to enjoy this time with you & God. So now its time for you to log off and get ready for the PERFECT DATE. If you're reading this please share your experience with us after your date!! Remember God loves you unconditionally & wants you to experience Him like never before. This date may be the beginning of experiences like never before!!

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XOXO,

Jenn

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Single Love Chronicles : Ponder on the Vows....Are you ready?

Single Love Chronicles : Ponder on the Vows....Are you ready?: Singles! While you're waiting to be courted or say "I do" ponder on this. The common wedding vow states "...for better...

Who is BAE in your Life?

...Logging on to Instagram and so many other social platforms we are bombarded with the latest Boo News of individuals flooding our timelines with their #MCM #WCE and now their "BAE"

So what is BAE and what does that signify? It's a term to represent your mate meaning "before anyone else" according to the Urban Dictionary.

The meaning is so rich in context which caused me to ponder if God was the BAE of our life. Or are we truly allowing people to have a false pedestal for the sake of love or desire to be wanted. Are we putting God before anyone/anything else in our life? Does this title hold weight in your relationship?

I'm challenging you to analyze your relationships, pray and ask God to show you if there are any false idols before him, and to place him on the throne of your heart! Check out these scriptures that prove God IS & should be your #1 BAE. God Loves You unconditionally :-)

Scriptures

Psalm 32:8
Psalms 84:11
Isaiah 58:11
Matthew 6:31-33
1 Corinthians 2:9, 10

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XOXO,

Jenn

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The Ultimate Gentleman

...So ladies you know we yearn for the suave gentleman who has style, values of chivalry, & of course a breakthrough prayer life. RIGHT! I'm here to share with you that WE (yes we) have THE ULTIMATE GENTLEMAN at our fingertips who we can share our deepest desires too or shed tears on His shoulder or enjoy moments of cheerfulness and laughter with! 

Who is He? God! Our Father! Yes He is the ultimate gentleman. He won't force you to do anything you are not ready to do yet is there waiting patiently when the time is right for you! I'm just in awe of how calm, firm, yet smooth He is! God is a gentleman, He won't force you to embrace Him! He waits for you or sends for you! 

Girls you have to learn this trait of God! Yes He is our Father, provider, protector, healer, etc. But there comes a time where He wants to be your Lover, Friend, or Husband (yes you read it correctly)! The 

Scriptures for you to read. 

Song of Solomon 2:10

Zechariah 2:8

John 15:16 

James 4:8

Psalms 23:1-6

Isaiah 49:15

Xoxo, 

Jenn

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Ponder on the Vows....Are you ready?

Singles! While you're waiting to be courted or say "I do" ponder on this.
The common wedding vow states "...for better, for worse, in sickness & in health, until death due us part.."is recited. What does this mean to you? If a situation arises and money isn't flowing constantly, WILL YOU WALK AWAY OR TOUGH IT OUT THROUGH LOVE, PRAYER, FAITH, PATIENCE? If your spouse is stricken with an illness that needs extra care, WILL YOU BREAK & SEND YOUR BELOVED TO A CARE FACILITY OR WILL YOU LOVE/CARE FOR YOUR MATE UNTIL GOOD HEALTH IS RESTORED?
Is it true marriage (responsibility & sacrifice) that you desire or the title of being a wife/husband?
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